For many people, traveling alone can be a daunting prospect. Travel for senior singles face the lack of a companion at dinner or just someone to share those special moments with. It can seem like a lonely way to spend a vacation. Safety concerns also come up, especially for those with special health considerations.
However for those that are looking for a truly transformational experience, as well as having complete control over every aspect of their traveling day, solo travel offers a way for the bold traveler to have it all. And with these 5 tips, you may just find this to be your next favorite hobby!
1. Travel As A Participant
Don’t just pack your bag and book a resort hoping to meet someone at the hotel bar. Why not take this opportunity to participate in something that maybe time or a previous partner did not allow you to do? There are language schools in every capital city and major tourist destination that offer group classes and packages that have built in communities for you to meet and mingle.
If the polyglot in you is full or if languages just aren’t your thing, yoga retreats are growing in popularity at beautiful destinations. Plus you’ll be getting healthier 🙂
If you are looking for a singles senior cruise, compare these here. You are looking for “Escorted” or “Hosted Cruises” on most cruise lines.
Finally, if you really just want to take that trip to places like say a famous U.S. city such as Philadelphia or Boston where there doesn’t seem to be an easy way to run into people. Make sure you look for single day group tours to landmarks or museums, (and if you’re in Boston there’s always the duck boats!)
2. Don’t Be Shy
So, you’ve chosen a destination or a cruise and you know you want to meet people when you get there. The key here is Don’t. Be. Shy!
What’s the worst that could happen? You don’t get along? Don’t worry, they’re strangers. So you can part ways and move along! However, it is more likely that just by being in the same place on a vacation you already have more than enough in common. Start a conversation and have fun, you might just have the best conversation of your life with that stranger.
Finally, don’t worry about being a third wheel if you happen to be talking to a couple or two people who are traveling together. More than likely they welcome the new perspective and addition to their own conversation.
Invite people to dinner and recap the fun that was had that day!
3. Choose Your Passion, Don’t Make This A Mission
Alright, I guess it has to be said but there is a chance you might meet your soulmate on this trip. But then again, you might not. As you prepare and your mind fills with expectations for this grand solo adventure – try to defend against thoughts that you must find a romantic partner on this trip or it is a failure.
The easiest way to do this is by going back to Tip #1 and making sure that where you are going and what you are doing will be fulfilling in and of itself. Are you a birding fanatic? Then don’t take a cruise that doesn’t at least have birding as a shore option! If you like sea kayaking, don’t go to the Grand Canyon just because you heard the group that’s going is full of potential partners.
You probably already know this but the people you meet doing things you love would be much better romantic partners anyway, so stick with what you want to do, and let the rest fall into place.
4. Enjoy The Times You Are Alone
Personally, traveling solo for me is a treat. I truly appreciate the reflective introspective time I get to myself. Traveling singles, even if you are the life of the party, means you’ll probably have a few meals alone and perhaps even a whole evening.
Learn to enjoy dinner alone, people watching and self reflection. Sit outside on the patio of a restaurant or balcony of your room and enjoy being a content observer of the world you are experiencing. This will actually carry-over a sense of peace to the rest of your life, if you don’t mind me dishing out a little zen on you.
5. Learn To Journal
Along these lines, if you aren’t already journaling your life’s journey in your everyday world, there is no better time to start than on a solo journey. Journaling isn’t just about recording facts or teenage angst. Studies show that writing down what you were grateful for can shape your thoughts and lead to an increase in happiness.
You might just learn that you have some thoughts and words hidden in your mind that come out with a pen that can be truly revelatory. If you haven’t journaled and don’t know where to start, I recommend starting in the morning by writing down 3 things you’re grateful for (and on a vacation that shouldn’t be too hard) and then at the end of the day writing down 3 good things that happened. You’ll be amazed at how you start looking for things to add to your journal to be happy about.
This tip isn’t just about travel, so I hope you take this one to heart!
If you need to find a good travel journal, this is the one I use.
It’s All About Enjoying Yourself
At the end of the day, traveling is about learning, experiencing, and enjoying the world around us. If down correctly, solo travel, especially for seniors who have so much experience already, can reveal to us the wonder of the world in truly unexpected ways.
If you found yourself recently single, this might be hard to believe, but you may just find a whole new you out there that you can bring back home. And of course, you also just might find someone special to bring back too 🙂
P.S. Has anyone had an experience travelling solo that they would like to share in the comments? We’d love to get some love stories here at SeniorSouth, we’re basically old romantics 🙂